Parents are Children’s Best Friend

The information the little ones carry today is really surprising. They have a plethora of information. They learn to operate mobiles and tablets even before they learn to walk or talk.

While they have a lot of information how much knowledge do they really have?

Parents want their children to be successful. However, the definition of success varies from person to person. Success to Sachin Tendulkar was his performance in cricket. Arunima Sinha’s success was climbing the Everest.

So, what made them successful?

Was it academics? No. It was their passion and values they stood for.

Nowadays child education begins even before birth, through prenatal training. This is followed by nursery, kindergarten, schooling, and college.

Parents want their children to go ahead in society. For this, they need to develop various skills. As a result, they push their children to attend many educational institutes from a very early age.

Parents are not able to spend time with children. So, they are sent to tuition classes as soon as they are back from school.

The responsibility of teaching academics is on tuition teachers and schools.

This way the child may score well. That’s it.

But are children with good grades in school well equipped with skills for a bright future? Not really.

  • They know how to calculate the width of a circle, but don’t know who they are.
  • They know when and where migratory birds fly, but don’t know the direction of their own lives.
  • They understand chemical relations but don’t understand human relations.

School education doesn’t teach children how to live happily.

Role of society in today’s education system

Unfortunately, society heavily relies on a person’s academic background. Someone’s caliber is decided by their academic scores, college of graduation, and then the salary and employer. 

This adds to the pressure on the parents to admit their children in top class schools and universities. And then be employed by first-class employers etc.

Role of schools in today’s education system

Children are forced to do well in all subjects. Getting a good rank in class has become the need of the hour. Children concentrate on raising their average scores rather than on what they enjoy. Thus, they do not develop the skills they would like to develop.

The unfulfilled dreams and unattended curiosities lead to dissatisfaction. This may also lead to depression and inferiority complex.

The basic human need is to be valued, acknowledged, appreciated and respected for what we are.

However, our educational climate does not live up to our basic human needs. The pressure to be the best student causes conflicts among kins. The competition to be the class or school head prevents camaraderie in school.

Top rankers live in constant fear of losing their rank. This leads to a constant pressure on them. Students who don’t perform well don’t find themselves worthy. This leads to inferiority complex.

Role of parents in shaping a child’s future

Many times parents try to fulfill their dreams through their children. Parents push their children to excel to maintain their own status in society. Their child’s excellence in a particular field boosts their own ego.

Parents sometimes stop their children from showing interest in non-academic fields.

These unfulfilled desires and ego don’t allow them to recognize the child’s inner desires and dreams.

This can lead to pushing the child to do something they don’t want to do leading to dissatisfaction.

Role of a parent is to recognize their child’s hidden talent

Parents need to let go their personal interests and accept their children as they are. When children are appreciated and accepted by their parents, they gain the confidence to develop their latent abilities. Their desire to learn grows stronger.

The only way to be happy in today’s chaotic world is to learn the art of loving and being loved. To love and be loved is a basic human desire. And, acceptance is the highest form of expressing love.

Schools today may not be able to teach how to love and accept others. This is the role of parents.

It is this love and acceptance that makes our children a better person.

Let us accept their abilities, talents, concerns, hopes, and dreams. Permit them to enjoy the fields they want to enjoy. Allow them to become what they want to become. Love them unconditionally. Provide them with the opportunity to see and learn from their parents. Help them to love others.

.This is the wisdom of life which our children need to learn. School education cannot give this to our children, only parents can.

BK Nikunj

Rajyogi Brahma Kumar Nikunj is a young spiritual leader of the Brahma Kumaris.He's a living example of simplicity with depth, humility with courage, and wisdom with devotion.His life is the epitome of dedication, selflessness, and commitment towards self and world transformation.Born into a family of businessmen in Mumbai, as a child, BK Nikunj was a strong atheist. But, when he was 14, a chanced encounter with the spiritual legend Rajyogini Brahmakumari Nalini Didi ji totally changed his life.A linguist in 7 languages, he's been writing regular weekly columns for all the national dailies viz:DNA Times of India Indian Express Hindustan Times Mid day Dainik Jagran Rajasthan Patrika Lokmat Amar Ujala Kutch Mitra The Himalayan Times (Nepal) Hindustan Today (UK)He carries a blend of eastern spiritual wisdom, and western education and culture. This allows him to bridge understanding of cultures, with a high level of diplomacy and communication skills.His philosophy of life is: “Spirituality cannot be taught. It has to be experienced.”

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    How can Parents handle or deal with conflict with their adult children ?
    what do parents do if they don’t agree with their child’s decision and feel that what their child is doing is not correct and even un- necessary ?

    Please advise,


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