The 3 factors which influence our thoughts are past experiences, information and belief systems. Our belief systems determine our thoughts which create our destiny. Some of our common belief systems about our emotions are responsible for our destiny of stress, pain and conflict in relationships. Let us explore a new belief system instead:

1. Tension and worry is natural – Peace and calm is natural
2. Anger is necessary – Compassion is necessary
3. Hurt is obvious – Empathy is obvious
4. Happiness is in position and possessions – Happiness is created in every thought
5. Competition is the way – Co-operation is the way
6. Criticism is a motivator – Appreciation is a motivator
7. Love has expectations – Love is acceptance
8. Guilt will bring transformation – Realization will bring transformation

We all try to change the quality of our thoughts but are unable to do so permanently, because the thoughts arise from the belief systems. If our belief system says – anger is necessary to discipline. Without anger things go out of control, people will take me for granted and people will think I am weak. Then we will not be able to create thoughts of love and peace. Experiment with a new belief system – I am a peaceful and loveful soul and so is each one around me. Peace and love is the way to empower and get work done. Use this belief system and see your destiny change. The subconscious mind is full of a large number of belief systems about the self and others. Let us be aware of them and see what is causing us pain, and then explore a new one.