Inner Power In Students (Part 2)
We understood how students can fare well in exams while retaining inner powers of peace and emotional health. It is beautiful and important to remain that way even during exam results. Let us see how to make that happen.
Role As A Student –
1. Talents and capacities of students differ, so I should never compare my result with others’ results. The only question to answer is – Had I performed to the best of my ability?
2. If I had given my best in the exams, no need to worry. Creating anxiety before results are announced will impact my health, not improve my scores.
3. If I had not given my best and hence scored low, I should not go into pain. From time to time, my mind will create thoughts of guilt. With understanding, I immediately change the thought to – I will not waste energy or time dwelling in the past. It is over, finished. I focus on what to do at present, so I excel in future exams.
4. If I had performed to my highest potential yet scored low, I should not feel guilty but create one thought – I am proud of having given my best and will continue doing so, without losing enthusiasm.
Role As A Parent (or A Family Member) –
1. Students with poor scores fear parents’ impulsive reaction more than the result. By creating anger or hurt, by discussing results often, or even by thinking about it, I radiate rejection to my child who is already in pain.
2. My first role is to accept the situation by responding with emotional stability, realizing that my child now needs empathy.
3. My second role is to empower my child by radiating unconditional love and compassion, which boosts my child’s inner power to perform well next time. It also builds a strong emotional bond between us.
4. Exams and good scores are very important. But I cannot allow poor results to affect health, happiness or harmony at home.