Don’t Equate Love With Meeting Expectations
We routinely expect people to be and do things which are consistent with our own qualities, values and goals. If someone starts meeting our expectations to an extent, we believe they love us. We even mentally write scripts of how they will satisfy all our wishes, due to their love. And the day they fall short or do not conform to our needs for any reason, we become resentful. Take this moment to teach your mind that when people are not our way, it does not imply they do not love us.
I am a happy being. I am happy being my way. I do not have expectations from anyone. I do not seek love from them. I am love … I radiate love to all. I give advice …. without expectations. People may or may not obey me… They love me…but they may not be able to do as I say… I don’t equate their actions with their love for me. They love me but cannot do what I ask them to do at the moment… they cannot listen to me… they are unable to implement my suggestion… they behave as per their thought process…their nature…their capacity…their priority… which may not match with mine. I understand them. I do not expect them to be my way… I talk to my mind …I explain to it their perspective. My mind does not question their love for me… it listens to me and calms down. I respond with an energy of love and respect. I need nothing from anyone.
Repeat this affirmation a few times to change the definition that whoever loves us does exactly what we want them to do. Once you detach love from expectations, understanding people and accepting them becomes natural.