Do Love And Pain Go Hand In Hand (Part 1)?

Love and pain are two emotions that touch or move us in life. Both are our inner creation in response to circumstances. With constant ups and downs in life both love and pain seem like addictions, as we almost always feel either loved or pained. There are 3 deep and wrong belief systems about love and pain, that we need to examine:

1. Love Hurts –

Love can never harm us. People who do not love us back can harm us, but not love. Losing a loved one can be painful. Separation can be painful. Being lied or betrayed can be painful… but many people feel love is painful. They even decide never to love any human being again. True love never hurts, it only heals. 

2. We Obviously Go In Pain When A Loved One Is Distressed – 

Consider the example of a young child who meets with an accident. Being in tremendous pain and fear he could be crying for hours or days. At that time how would he want his parents to be? To cry along with him and add to his insecurity? Or a strong, stable and brave parent cheering him as – We understand your pain. We are always with you. The best doctors are healing you. Just see how quickly you are recovering. You are the bravest child…

3. Loving Someone Makes Me Possessive And Worried For Them – 

Attachment makes us possessive or worried. Love lets people be who they are. Pure love vibrates at such a higher frequency where lower energies like pain, fear, anxiety and insecurity cannot reach. At a time, either love can exist or pain – not both. 

It is important to get our belief systems right because once we adopt any belief, the very way we live our lives will change considerably.

(To be continued tomorrow…)