Don’t Make People Dependent On You

We often live in a belief system of being so important to some people or situations, that we believe they cannot manage life without us. It feels nice when someone needs us, but their dependence on us is not healthy. We have the responsibility of empowering the self and empowering people to be independent. This is our true help to them, and they benefit from our detachment and the space we give them to be and support themselves.

1. Your family and friends love you, trust you and respect you. Do you want them to be dependent on you?  Do you feel good to be always needed and wanted by someone? Do you think it is the right karma and beneficial for your relationship with them?
2. How much ever loved, admired, skillful and helpful you are, do not make anyone dependent on you. It creates ego in you and blocks your love with people in relationships. Help people and care for them with a sense of humility, not pride and not with an attitude of ownership over them and their thoughts and feelings.
3. Remember that everyone has a unique journey and shapes their own destiny. Your role is to empower them to walk on the right path and strengthen them to cross any obstacles that come on the way. Support them and show them their capabilities and how they can use them. Don’t make them dependent on your capabilities. Share your skills, ideas, resources, expertise and experience with everyone. But make everyone self-reliant and help them become creative.
4. Empower yourself spiritually everyday. This will help you remain humble and treat everyone as equal and powerful. This attitude of equality will show people the way to be emotionally independent. Apart from enjoying your presence and benefiting from it, they will take charge of their lives in your absence too.