Experiencing Freedom From Hurt In Relationships (Part 2)

When we are hurt, it becomes difficult for us to forgive others at times. If we remember that forgiveness will only help to dissolve negativity, it will make it easier for us to reach out for bigger possibilities in life. Also, connected with forgiveness is attachment. The greater the attachment, the more difficult it is to forgive. Love without attachment finds it easy to forgive. When relationships have with them, physical, mental or emotional attachment, any hurt is bound to leave marks and will never allow us to be what we were again. But if we bring ourselves to a subtle and light state of being, where the relationship is far deeper, but also wise in a way that we can play our part in a story as a character and switch off; and not let it leave any impressions; we will feel much more secure. 

Whenever we feel deeply hurt by any situation involving a person, which was intentionally caused to us or we were drawn into it, we can take steps to heal ourselves. Firstly, an attitude of patience is essential. It is all about oneself, a natural process, and it cannot be rushed. Also, required is consideration for the other soul, gentleness, sensitivity and generosity. It takes time and effort and hence we must allow it the time it needs to unfold. Also, hurt creates an invisible shield, making it hard for us to move freely, making us feel stiff and unprotected. This shield can sometimes deprive us from opportunities of self-improvement through meaningful conversations with ourselves. While we feel we are becoming more realistic and wise by doing this, we end up numbing ourselves and crawl into our own cocoons. In relationships, it’s important to be aware of the consequences of carrying hurt and closing doors to others due to misunderstandings. We must learn how to successfully navigate the unfamiliar waters of hurt. When we are hurt, we sometimes close ourselves to love from others. As a result, we also lose the ability to experience the joy that comes from giving in relationships.