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2 truths that make your life easy

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2 Truths That Make Your Life Easy

Have you ever wondered why we often blame others for our circumstances? We say, “I am like this because of…” and then list reasons involving situations or people. It’s an excuse. It’s easy to play the blame game. But what if the truth is different? What if no one else has the power to control who we are?

Truth 1: You Decide Who You Are

Understanding that we are in charge of our own lives is the first truth. Nobody can push us to be a certain way. We each make our own choices. This perspective changes everything. When we stop blaming others, we reclaim our power. We realize that while others can influence us, they cannot change us. Similarly, we cannot change others.

Let’s break this down:

  • Blame and Victim Mode: We often say, “I am like this because of my parents, my boss, my partner, or a certain situation.” When we do this, we enter a victim mentality, feeling powerless and controlled by external factors. This is just an excuse to avoid taking responsibility.
  • Taking Responsibility: The reality is that we are the ones who decide how we respond to situations. No one else can make us feel or act a certain way unless we allow it. We each have the power to choose our reactions and attitudes.
  • Reclaiming Power: By accepting that we are in control of our own actions and feelings, we empower ourselves. This means no more blaming others for our problems. Instead, we acknowledge our role in creating our experiences.

Truth 2: We Can’t Change Others

The second truth is recognizing the limits of our influence on others. We often try to change people, whether it’s a parent with a child, a friend, or a partner. But ultimately, everyone makes their own decisions. Understanding this reduces frustration and enhances acceptance.

Here’s how it works:

  • Influence, Not Control: While we can influence others through our advice and actions, we cannot control their decisions. Each person decides for themselves what they will or will not do.
  • Parental Influence: Consider a parent who tries to shape their child’s behavior by saying, “You should do this” or “You shouldn’t do that.” The child listens but ultimately decides whether to follow the advice based on their own judgment, fears, or desires.
  • Personal Decisions: Even if someone follows advice out of fear, love, or a desire to please, it is still their choice. They are not being controlled, but influenced. For example, a wife may choose to wear certain clothes because her husband prefers it, but it’s her decision to do so, whether out of love, respect, or fear of conflict.
  • Acceptance: Understanding that we cannot change others helps us accept them as they are. We stop trying to mold people to fit our expectations and instead appreciate their individuality.

Influence vs. Control

While we can’t change others, we can influence them. Influence comes from our advice and, more importantly, our actions and vibrations. If we live by our values, our influence becomes stronger. For example, if you advise someone to be honest but don’t practice honesty yourself, your words lose power.

Real-Life Examples

Let’s explore some real-life scenarios to understand these truths better:

  1. Honesty in Business: Imagine a shop that always maintains fixed prices. Other shops might reduce prices to attract customers, but the shop with fixed prices stands firm on its principle. Initially, it might face losses, but over time, customers trust its integrity and quality, preferring to shop there despite higher prices.
  2. Personal Integrity: A husband might ask his wife to lie about his whereabouts, but if she refuses because she values honesty, she is exercising her power of choice. She decides based on her values, not just to please her husband.

Actionable Tips

  1. Accept Responsibility: Acknowledge that your life is shaped by your own choices. Reflect on situations where you blamed others and see how you can take responsibility instead.
  2. Stop Blaming Others: Shift your focus from blaming others to understanding your own role. When you catch yourself blaming someone, pause and think about what you could have done differently.
  3. Live Your Values: Be the example you want others to follow. If you value honesty, practice it consistently in your own life.
  4. Accept Others as They Are: Understand that you can’t change others, only influence them. Appreciate people for who they are and support their own journey of growth.
  5. Influence Positively: Use positive actions and vibrations to inspire change in others. Lead by example, and your genuine actions will have a stronger impact than mere words.

Essence

Recognizing these two truths can transform your life. By accepting that you are responsible for who you are and understanding the limits of your influence on others, you free yourself from unnecessary stress and frustration. Live by your values, influence positively, and embrace the peace that comes from these realizations.

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I sit comfortably, closing my eyes and embracing the stillness. I recognize a powerful truth: I decide who I am, reclaiming my power and releasing blame on others for my circumstances. I choose to respond with peace and stability, accepting that I cannot change others, only influence them. Visualizing myself as a luminous point of light, I feel connected to the highest source of energy, the supreme soul. I affirm, “I am in control of my life; I accept others as they are,” and feel empowered and at peace. Gently opening my eyes, I carry this energy into my day. Om Shanti.

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