Using people’s opinions or our own perception, we sometimes put labels on our self, such as – I am slow, I am aggressive. Repeated negative affirmations of labels on the self increase that behaviour in us. Labels we put on our self or people put on us, become repeated thoughts and words about our personality. They become our reality, till we decide to change our labels.
1. Check if since your childhood, people had certain things to say about your incorrect habits or behaviors. Their intentions were pure, and they wanted you to change. But they gave you negative labels like you are lazy or you are careless and so on.
2. It is possible that you accepted the labels people gave you, made them your identity, thereby reaffirming that personality trait of being lazy or careless. When you repeatedly say – I am so and so, you reinforce it. It signifies who you are and who you will be.
3. Make a list of all the negative labels you have absorbed from others and are still holding on to. Over a period, they have become affirmations and a part of your vocabulary, obstructing your success and happiness.
4. Check if you say anything negative about yourself. Even if it is a reality, replace them with pure, positive labels. Repeat it for a few days till it becomes your positive identity.