Avoid These Mistakes While Disciplining Children

Have you ever thought about how your words and actions impact a child’s mind and soul? What if the way we talk to children could shape their entire future?

Mistake 1: Talking Down to Children

When we see a child who is one or two years old, we often think of them as just a baby. We talk to them in gibberish, thinking that’s the only way they’ll understand us. But what if we told you that the child’s soul is much older and wiser than their little body?

Imagine a CD being taken out of an old player and put into a new one. The new player might not be fully developed, but the CD itself is complete and full of information. Similarly, the child’s body and brain are still developing, but their soul is mature and carries all the experiences from past lifetimes. We must communicate with children as mature souls, not just as young bodies.

Mistake 2: Not Respecting the Child’s Soul

We need to understand that even though a child’s brain and body are still growing, their soul is fully capable of understanding. This means we should talk to them with respect and dignity, just like we would with an adult.

A real-life example illustrates this well. Where Son of Grandpa once left his 10-month-old child with him while they went out. The child cried until they returned. The next time, they told the child they were leaving and would be back soon. Amazingly, the child stayed calm. This shows that even a 10-month-old understands what we say to them. The soul listens and comprehends everything, even if the child cannot fully express it yet.

Mistake 3: Using Physical Punishment

Many parents believe that disciplining a child sometimes involves scolding or even hitting. But think about how you feel when someone raises their hand at you. It’s not just physical pain; it’s a feeling of disrespect and hurt. The same happens with children. When we hit a child, we crush their developing self-respect and self-esteem.

Imagine a soul that was respected and treated with dignity in its past life suddenly being scolded and hit. It’s a shocking and hurtful experience. Children, even if they are young, feel deeply hurt when we scold or hit them. This can leave emotional wounds that are hard to heal. Raising our hand on a child not only physically hurts them but emotionally scars them, which can last a lifetime.

Mistake 4: Negative Reinforcement

A child believes whatever their parents tell them. If we keep telling them they are no good or can’t do anything right, they start believing it. This shapes their self-image and their future. On the other hand, if we tell them they are wonderful, intelligent, and capable, they will grow up with confidence and self-respect.

Think about an elephant tied with a thin chain. The elephant doesn’t try to break free because it was conditioned in its youth to believe it couldn’t. Similarly, if we keep telling a child they can’t do something, they will believe it for the rest of their life. We should always give them positive reinforcement, empowering them to believe in their capabilities.

Mistake 5: Ignoring the Emotional Wounds

Even if we have made mistakes in the past, it’s never too late to change. We can start speaking positively and empowering our children today. Tell them how good they are, encourage them, and build their self-esteem.

If you have criticized your child before, change your approach now. Use positive words and thoughts. Every word you speak should be a blessing, not a curse. Even if your child makes a mistake, help them rise with encouraging words.

Mistake 6: Publicly Shaming Children

Scolding or hitting a child in front of others can deeply hurt their dignity and self-respect. Imagine how you would feel if someone reprimanded you publicly. It’s the same for children. If a child is scolded in front of their friends, it can be extremely embarrassing and damaging to their self-esteem. Always correct and guide children in private to maintain their dignity.

Mistake 7: Underestimating the Child’s Past Experiences

Every child’s soul carries experiences from past lifetimes. They may have been a respected elder or a leader. Suddenly finding themselves in a small, developing body and being treated without respect can be confusing and hurtful. Remember, the soul has wisdom and deserves respect, regardless of the current physical age of the child.

Essence

Disciplining children doesn’t mean scolding or hitting them. It means guiding them with love, respect, and understanding. Remember, we are not just dealing with a young body and brain, but a mature soul that understands everything. Let’s choose our words wisely and build a positive future for our children.