Every society and even every family follows certain rules in behaviours. They serve as a code of conduct for us, to give regard to people based on their roles and positions. Having rules in place for how we give regard, treat, behave and reciprocate to people in certain roles, is vital to maintain dignity of that role. Sometimes our ego does not allow us to follow these set rules, especially if we had an unpleasant experience or hold a negative impression about people. Following rules strengthen us and our relationships.
1. Acquaint yourself with the rules and regards followed at different levels: within your family, society, faith, or country. Learn by asking and observing.
2. Check your views about the people you know. Start with those older to you, holding higher positions, doing better than you or getting appreciation. If there are thoughts of jealousy, inferiority or indifference, counsel your mind – Offering regard for their role and position is my responsibility.
3. Be humble even with someone younger in age, lower or equal in role. Even if others treat them differently, be courteous to them.
4. When you give regard, the positivity created helps you develop goodwill. Being nice to people, no matter what they do, is a sign of strength. Let your morality win over ego.