Does Your Self Esteem Rely On Winning And Losing (Part 1)?

We often hear in our day-to-day lives that we are in a race and life is about winning at every moment. Also, we have got used to feeling very happy, when we succeed in anything on a physical level, whether it is in our education or in our career or in a relationship or in anything else like being on the winning side in any sport. On the other hand, we feel dejected and disheartened when we don’t succeed or don’t do so well in any of these aspects of life. The worst part is our self-respect or how we see ourselves has started depending on these ups and downs so much in our present lives, that we have forgotten these are temporary aspects of our life and even if people have started seeing us through the spectacles of these successes and failures and started labelling us in their minds because of that, we don’t need to do that to ourselves and to others. Even our children are suffering because of this, as we judge them based on this winning and losing, either in their studies, or in their sports or in any other activities in their growing years as children or teenagers. Let us explore three ways by which we can overcome this issue in our lives –

1. Winning And Losing Is External … If I Am Happy And Content, I Am Always Winning – The first and foremost step is understanding that with the theory of the Survival of the Fittest, we introduced deep competition in society and made life so difficult for ourselves, that now we are ourselves suffering because of the same, as we don’t know how to come out of this race. Wherever we see, whether it is in our personal lives or in our professional lives, or in our school and college upbringing, it’s all about external success. In many cases, people are suffering internally because of this and are not so happy. We have forgotten that we are spiritual beings or souls and for us winning is being pure and positive and full of our original qualities like peace, love, joy and power. Also, when we focus only on external winning and losing, we no longer enjoy life and we only keep chasing and searching and keep getting more and more emptier spiritually and emotionally everyday and our qualities keep reducing.

(To be continued tomorrow …)