How to control your mind bk shivani

How to Control Your Mind?

In a world where our emotions often seem at the mercy of external circumstances, the power to remain calm and peaceful amidst chaos is invaluable. We often hear phrases like “Don’t make me angry,” as if our emotional states are entirely dependent on others. But is this really the case? In this blog post, we explore the concept of emotional self-mastery and how we can truly take control of our own feelings, regardless of external provocations.

Understanding Emotional Control

The notion that others control our emotions is a common belief. It’s like thinking of our mind as a television, with others holding the remote. If they press the right buttons, we’re happy; the wrong ones, and we’re upset. But in reality, the remote should be in our hands. Our emotional state – our “Swa-sthithi” – is our responsibility, not dictated by external “paristhiti” (situations or others’ states).

24-Hour Emotional Fasting: A Challenge:

Imagine undertaking a 24-hour fast, not from food, but from negative emotional reactions. No matter the situation or behavior of others, we strive to remain stable and peaceful, responding with our inherent positive qualities, or ‘Sanskars.’ This practice is about overpowering negativity with positivity, a true test of emotional strength and resilience.

The Power of Choice

When faced with negativity, whether it’s an angry colleague or a stressful situation, we have a choice. We can either succumb to the emotional contagion or remain unaffected, even providing healing through our stability. This choice extends to daily interactions, where we can decide to respond with peace, love, and respect, regardless of others’ behavior.

Teaching the Mind Gratitude and Positivity

The mind is malleable, like a child, and it will follow our lead. By consistently practicing gratitude – starting with a morning routine of thanking God, our body, our environment, and even those who challenge us – we strengthen our internal resilience. Gratitude, especially towards challenging people and situations, increases our inner power and helps us face life’s hurdles with a positive mindset.

Creating a Reality of Happiness and Power

Our thoughts shape our reality. By affirming “I am a powerful soul” and “I am always happy,” we set a tone of positivity for our day. This isn’t just wishful thinking; it’s a strategic approach to cultivating a mindset that can withstand and thrive in any situation.


Emotional self-mastery is not about suppressing feelings but understanding and directing them in a way that serves our well-being and personal growth. By keeping the remote control of our mind in our own hands, practicing gratitude, and affirming our inner strength and happiness, we not only improve our own lives but also positively influence those around us.

Questions for Reflection:

What situations typically challenge your emotional control, and how can you approach them differently?

How can you incorporate a gratitude practice into your daily routine?

In what ways can you remind yourself that you are the master of your emotions?


Guided Meditation Practice

(Turn on above audio and start practicing meditation)

Close your eyes gently. If you’re comfortable, keep them partially or half-open. Feel the gentle rhythm of your breath. Inhale peace, exhale any tension.

Imagine yourself as a radiant point of light in the center of your forehead. This light represents your true self, a peaceful, powerful soul. You are the master of your thoughts, feelings, and responses.

Reflect on the idea: “Do I create anger, or do people make me angry?” Realize that every emotion, including anger, is a choice. Today, affirm to yourself, “I am not a slave to anyone or any situation. The remote control of my mind is in my hands.”

Visualize a remote control in your hand. This represents your power to choose your reactions. When someone tries to press your buttons, remember, you control your channel. Choose to remain calm, peaceful, and loving.

Now, let’s practice a 24-hour emotional fast. For the next day, no matter what happens around you, maintain your stability and peace. If someone behaves negatively, respond with your beautiful qualities of peace, love, and respect. Your positivity has the power to transform negativity around you.

Visualize a person who often challenges your patience. Decide that today, regardless of their behavior, you will respond only with peace, love, and respect. Prepare your mind for this every morning. Start with gratitude to God, then remind yourself of your commitment to positivity.

Envision interacting with this person. They may speak unkindly or act negatively, but see yourself responding with calmness and kindness. Feel the inner strength this brings. Each positive response increases your inner power.

Now, let’s shift our focus to gratitude. Begin with being thankful to God for everything in your life. Feel this gratitude deeply. Next, express gratitude to your mind and body for their health and resilience.

Think of your family, friends, and colleagues. Send them mental thanks for their love and support. Extend this gratitude to nature, for its beauty and sustenance.

Lastly, be grateful even to those who trouble you. They provide opportunities for your growth and inner strength. Each challenge is a chance to increase your soul power.

Repeat these affirmations to yourself:

“I am a powerful soul. The remote control of my life is in my hands.

I am always happy.” Feel these truths resonate within you.

Gently bring your awareness back to the room. Open your eyes fully when you’re ready.

Remember, you have the power to create a beautiful, peaceful life through your thoughts and responses. May you be blessed with an abundance of peace, love, and happiness.

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