Do you ever struggle with either/or decisions? I’m talking about things like: ‘Do I enrol in that course or the other one?’; ‘Do I stay in this relationship or leave?’; ‘Do I quit this job or do I stay?’; ‘Do I want to live here or there?’; Do I buy this one or the other one?’; ‘Do I have the operation or not?’; ‘Do I stay in my current role or do I risk making a change?’ Every person may encounter such types of dilemmas in almost every aspect of their life, including personal, social, and professional.
Sometimes we have multiple choices in our life too and our decisions will decide our future and happiness. When we’re dealing with these dilemmas, it can take days, weeks, months or even years in some cases, such as unhappy marriages or unsatisfactory jobs, before we finally choose one alternative over the other. And, for the meantime, we easily spend our days wandering in a thick psychological fog endlessly pondering: ‘Should I or Shouldn’t I?’ And, in the process, we make ourselves worried or stressed. If there’s one thing that sucks away the joy of life, it’s spending our days trying to solve some difficult dilemmas. We all have had to struggle with really hard decisions and tough choices at times.
A dilemma is a complicated situation in which we have to choose between two or more alternatives. Sant Kabir has rightly said: duvidha mein donon gaee, maaya milee na raam (standing between two stools, one falls to the ground) which means that an indecisive person receives nothing.
Decisions are the hardest thing to make. We are not alone who are confused in making decisions. This is the greatest problem of the present life. When we’re faced with an either/or dilemma, we can search for the third way or we can choose the best of both or one of the best.
We can follow the following 10 techniques to develop clarity in our thoughts and avoid confusion while decision making.
“Sir, what is the secret of your success?” a reporter asked a business tycoon. “Two words.” “And, sir, what are they?” “Good decisions.”
“And how do you make good decisions?” “One word.” “And sir, what is that?” “Experience.”
“And how do you get Experience?” “Two words.” “And, sir, what are they?” “Bad decisions.”
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