Nowadays, people are not happy with what they have or what they are because they are worried about the praise and attention of others. What is interesting is, we want to be happy to show others how happy we are... we don't want to be happy for ourselves.
It is a bitter truth of our society that we are focused on others than ourselves. All our so-called definitions of success, happiness, greatness etc. are defined by how much we are praised and appreciated by others.
Our self-image depends on how others treat us. So we fake a smile easily if someone is watching us. We dress, not to be comfortable or be confident with our body but to look beautiful in other’s eyes. Our vacations have become a way to increase followers on Instagram/Facebook rather than enjoying time with ourself, family or nature.
It’s like beggar ‘A’ seeking advice from beggar ‘B’ and then deciding if he can be happy.
The founding father of Brahma Kumaris used to say: ‘Ek bhikhari dusre bhikhari ko sahukar nahi bana sakta’. (A beggar cannot make other beggar rich)
We should understand that we all are different. Everyone has different ways that touch their souls and make them happy. For example, I always enjoyed watching cartoon network but my sister always enjoyed playing with dolls. That does not mean I cannot be happy while watching those funny cartoons because my sister doesn’t like that and vice-versa.
As they say, there should not be a ‘because’ after happiness. If we keep searching for reasons to be happy, that very search will not allow us to be happy. And when that reason is others, we can’t taste even a single moment of true happiness.
Be something for yourself to enjoy yourself, not to show off yourself. You are not a showroom!
Spend some time with yourself, have some solitude time to know more of you and understand what makes you truly happy. Not just comfortable but real joy and satisfaction. Most of us are actually running for comforts thinking that it is the same as happiness. It’s not like we don’t understand the difference between both, we just need to take a pause from this running and try to see what we truly seek.
A flower blooms not for others, but because it is a flower. Be like a flower… be happy…
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